Hi – I’m Linda Graf. I’m a musician, a mentor and a mother. I’ve been the Worship Ministries Director at my church since 1999 and I’m passionate about ministering to women. Why? Because I was trapped in anger, self-pity and bitterness for years and didn’t know why or what to do about it. In 2014 I wrote a book about my journey to freedom and abundant life, it’s called Bitter Truth: My Story of Bitterness, Grace and Repentance. Since then I’ve been blogging and speaking about it. Please subscribe to my blog for regular updates.  Blessings to you, friend!


winter scene, bleak landscape

I‘ve failed. Again. Can you relate? And in an area that I thought I had overcome. But it seems that some weeds of bitterness remain, even now. Thoughts I hadn’t completely gotten rid of. They popped up in some casual conversation with a friend. I was horrified and disappointed in myself. But I’ve got to be careful to not let my thoughts and feelings run riot, or move away from truth. [bctt tweet=” When I

believing lies or truth

No one thinks they are believing lies.

Of course what you are thinking is correct and true information, otherwise you wouldn’t think it, right?
But many of us are believing lies without even realizing it. They become ingrained in our regular thought processes and feel “true.”  And the enemy loves this; in fact, it’s one of his best strategies. He’s the first and biggest liar and he wants us to believe the things he whispers
unselfish thinking outwardly

One of the chief prescriptions in overcoming bitterness is obtaining a transformed mind. This process, as described in Romans 12:2, is allowing God to change the way we think. It involves the practice of unselfish thinking.

Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.


5 Godly Ways to Deal With Anger

Lately I’ve been reading about anger. Since it is the doorway, the starting point for bitterness, it’s helpful to understand it. It is interesting to read different opinions on anger from both worldly and godly perspectives and I’ll be sharing more of that in...

Worry or Trust?

I'm not normally a fearful person or a worrier. Doing anything new causes a certain amount of uncertainty in me, and I suffer some angst when I don't know what the future holds, but no more than I believe most people feel. But because of my recent surgery, my body...

Understanding Anger

The last time I became angry was when I witnessed someone act inappropriately. At least, that was my take on the situation. They spoke critically to a friend of mine. I thought their action was unwarranted and really not their business anyway. I struggled with wanting...

Great Expectations

Today is Valentine's Day and if you have a significant other, you may have some expectations of romance or hopes for what will happen on this day. You may expect a sweet card, some candy, or even a romantic proposal of marriage.  But what if it doesn't happen as you...

4 Things To Remember When Things Aren’t Going Your Way

We have all had those days. Frustrations, delays, difficulties. Traffic makes you late, the wi-fi is down, someone gets the flu and cancels. In these instances, I often sigh dramatically, “the universe is plotting against me!” But sometimes the problems are far more...

3 Reasons To Give Up

Over the past few weeks, I've suffered several disappointments in my writing endeavors. Nothing devastating, but a few answers were "no" that I hoped would be "yes." I've wondered if the course I'm set on is the right one. I've wondered if I should make changes. I've...

Gaining Perspective

It’s the story of a man's journey through extreme highs and lows. It describes his struggle against various temptations; envying others who are prosperous and carefree.  He is grappling with self-pity, despair, and the temptation to give up. This is all recounted in...

3 Things You May Not Know About Bitterness

Here are 3 things you may not know, if you have not been a student of bitterness. #1 It’s a secondary infection. Bitterness doesn’t just happen overnight. It settles in after we’ve had another ailment - like pneumonia settles in after a cold or the flu. The first...

Who is Your Best Friend?

Recently I was at a planning meeting with a group of friends. We went around the table and shared what the Lord had been teaching each of us lately. It varied widely; from books we had read to themes we were studying and experiences we’d had. For some it was a...

God’s In The Details

I've started reading through the Bible again at the beginning of a new year and find myself once again in Genesis. It's amazing that God created so vast an expanse as our universe, yet only took two chapters in His Word to describe it.  I almost laughed at Genesis...

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